# ADHD After Dark  ## Metadata - Author: [[Ari Tuckman]] - Full Title: ADHD After Dark - Category: #books ## Highlights - conversations. Needless to say, silence rarely makes a bad situation better. ([Location 927](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B07S4L76QP&location=927)) - of having a partner who would ignore their sexual initiations, but would expect a positive response when they initiated. Needless to say, selfishness and insensitivity almost always cast a long shadow in a relationship. ([Location 959](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B07S4L76QP&location=959)) - Many of these women want more sex with a generous partner who is affectionate, interested, and connected in both sexual and nonsexual ways. They would like their partners to step up more and handle more of the demands of daily life so it isn’t so imbalanced. ([Location 971](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B07S4L76QP&location=971)) - Some of them would indeed still like to have a good relationship and sex life, but feel resigned to their fate and are unhappily settling for what they have. ([Location 978](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B07S4L76QP&location=978)) - A surprising number of women complained about their male partners not taking care of their health and/or hygiene and that this was a turn-off for them. ([Location 981](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B07S4L76QP&location=981)) - Many of these guys were acutely aware of their partner’s frustrations with the impact of his ADHD and how that negatively impacted her interest in sex and general affection. They felt disappointed, hurt, and angry about this distance between them. Many of them recognized how their ADHD affected their partner and knew that they should help out more, but struggled with being consistent about it. They also wanted more empathy, understanding, and kindness from their partner about what living with ADHD is like for them. Many didn’t know what to do to improve the relationship or felt that they can’t please their partner, that it will never be enough. ([Location 1016](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B07S4L76QP&location=1016))