# Adultery  ## Metadata - Author: [[Paulo Coelho]] - Full Title: Adultery - Category: #books ## Highlights - Everything we seek so enthusiastically before we reach adulthood—love, work, faith—turns into a burden too heavy to bear. There is only one way to escape this: love. To love is to transform slavery into freedom. ([Location 1435](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=1435)) - But this loneliness exists and eats away at the best parts of us because we must use all our energy to appear happy, even though we will never be able to deceive ourselves. But we insist, every morning, on showing only the rose that blooms, and keep the thorny stem that hurts us and ([Location 1748](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=1748)) - makes us bleed hidden within. ([Location 1749](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=1749)) - Yet we cannot lose hope. We start doing things we don’t usually do, daring to go beyond what is fair and necessary. The thorns inside us will grow larger and more overwhelming, yet we cannot give up halfway. Everyone is looking to see the final outcome, as though life were a huge game of chess. We pretend it doesn’t matter whether we win or lose, the important thing is to compete. We root for our true feelings to stay opaque and hidden, but then … … instead of looking for companionship, we isolate ourselves even more in order to lick our wounds in silence. ([Location 1753](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=1753)) - Everything is awful. Please, leave me alone, because I have no more tears to cry or heart left to suffer. All I have is insomnia, emptiness, and apathy, and, if you just ask yourselves, you’re feeling the same thing. But they insist that this is just a rough patch or depression because they are afraid to use the real and damning word: loneliness. ([Location 1760](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=1760)) - Who hasn’t felt the urge to drop everything and go in search of their dream? A dream is always risky, for there is a price to pay. That price is death by stoning in some countries, and in others it could be social ostracism or indifference. But there is always a price to pay. ([Location 1767](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=1767)) - Deep down we’re all the same. We make the same mistakes and walk around with the same unanswered questions. ([Location 1978](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=1978)) - Love alone is not enough. I need to fall in love with my husband. ([Location 2083](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=2083)) - Love isn’t just a feeling; it’s an art. And like any art, it takes not only inspiration, but also a lot of work. ([Location 2084](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=2084)) - “Those who cannot accept this, and who always try to find an explanation for magical and mysterious human relationships, will miss the best part of life.” ([Location 2105](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=2105)) - “It’s true. Jealousy tells us: ‘You could lose everything you worked so hard to achieve.’ It blinds us to everything else, to the moments we’ve joyfully experienced, to happy times and the bonds created during those occasions. How is it that hatred can wipe out a couple’s entire history?” ([Location 2395](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=2395)) - Nothing happens without effort. ([Location 2400](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=2400)) - You have to have faith. And for that, you have to break down the barriers of prejudice, which requires courage. To have courage, you must conquer your fears. And so on and so forth. Let’s make peace with our days. We can’t forget that life is on our side. It also wants to get better. Let’s help it out!” ([Location 2401](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=2401)) - “Going after a dream has a price. It may mean abandoning our habits, it may make us go through hardships, or it may lead us to disappointment, et cetera. But however costly it may be, it is never as high as the price paid by people who didn’t live. Because one day they will look back and hear their own heart say: ‘I wasted my life.’ ” ([Location 2410](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=2410)) - “When you love each other, you have to be ready for anything. Because love is like a kaleidoscope, the kind we used to play with when we were kids. It’s in constant movement and never repeats itself. If you don’t understand this, you are condemned to suffer for something that really only exists to make us happy. And you know the worst thing? People like that woman, always worried about what others think of their marriage. That doesn’t matter to me. The only thing that counts is what you think.” ([Location 2427](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=2427)) - going around selling an idea isn’t everything. You have to find someone to buy. That goes for business, politics, and love. ([Location 2443](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=2443)) - I love, but in return I want something concrete—holding hands, kisses, hot sex, a dream to share, the chance to create a new family and raise my children, the opportunity to grow old alongside the person I love. ([Location 2448](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=2448)) - Note: #Adultery #awesomenesss - What is really contagious is fear, the constant fear of never finding someone to accompany us to the end of our days. And in the name of this fear we are capable of doing anything, including accepting the wrong person and convincing ourselves that he or she’s the one, the only one, who God has placed in our path. In very little time the search for security turns into a heartfelt love, and things become less bitter and difficult. Our feelings can be put in a box and pushed to the back of the closet in our head, where it will remain forever, hidden and invisible. ([Location 2460](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B00MN5LYQE&location=2460))